Wednesday, May 19, 2010

Advice for my 14 year old self...

Yesterday's post led me to the next few posts so you might want to read it so you get the full effect.

I decided to write a list of important things I have learned or would like to have been told - hindsight is always 20/20!  I broke the list into a few posts so the series is 3 or 4 days long.  When I read over the list I realised so many of my points were based on relationships - I guess that makes sense as what would life be without them?  I could've used this advice at 20 as well!  And 25...30...


1. Women are powerful – it’s ok to use that power but don’t use it as a weapon

2. Pay in cash

3. Date a lot…a lot. You will need to get to know a lot of men before you really know the qualities you want and need in a man

4. Before you get married, find out if he would get up in the middle of the night with a crying baby or change a diaper

5. Learn a little bit about a lot of things

6. Travel. Travel alone at least once

7. Wait until after 30 to get married – just have lots of fun until then

8. Don’t take life so seriously

9. Don’t marry for love – don’t marry solely for love. There are so many other important things your marriage will need. Love is the icing on the cake

10. Its ok to have it all…its also ok to not want it all

11. If someone isn’t adding value to your life, let them go - fast

12. Be humble – in the end, no one has kept score

13. Social grace will always be more important than money

14. Date at least one ‘older man’

15. Be the kind of woman the kind of man you want, wants


Have a fabulous day!

19 comments:

Whitney and the Preppy Puppy said...

I loved both posts and can't wait to see the rest of your list. xo xo

hostess of the humble bungalow said...

I need to go back to 14 again...I have not done many of those things on your list!
Oh well....

Sweet Southern Prep said...

These are so great. And I agree with so much! Is it alright to tell these to my 14-year old when she gets that age too? :) I wonder if she'll want to listen to me then. Haha.

JulesTX said...

Your advice is very valid. Of course the challenging thing would be to actually get a 14 yr old to listen to an adult - LOL

emily said...

oh i love this post!!! i am only 21 and i appreciate hearing your advice =)

Just Add Walter said...

#6 -- I have always wanted to travel alone once in my life but I am so scared to do it!

MCW said...

You know I love #7 :)

The Blonde Duck said...

PErfect list!

Snooty Primadona said...

Well, I did get married at 25 but we were so much more mature and I had dated gazillions of different men.

Because teens seem to be so much more promiscuous these days, I'd also like to add this:

16. Your body is your temple. Take care of it & never allow anyone to take anything from you that you don't want to give. You won't be ready for sex for a very long time, so don't give it away too soon. It's a precious thing.

;-)

Trish said...

Thank you for this list sweet friend, I love it all, particularly #10 - Its ok to have it all…its also ok to not want it all - I always told myself I wouldn't get married until 30...when I met my now hubby at 24 he said he couldn't wait until then! I know in my heart I made the right decision though :) xoxox

g e o r g i a said...

Yes did anyone tell us this, or did we think we knew it all?! Love your list!

Associate Girl said...

As much as I love my son and my husband, yes yes travel alone once. One of the very best days of my life was the day I walked from one end of San Francisco to the other alone.

High Heeled Life said...

Oh I'm so enjoying this series of posts! Can't wait to see the next post.

Travelbugmom said...

BRILLIANT!!!! I cannot wait to read the rest!
NOTE I believe #7 could be ADJUSTED....I go MARRIED at 23, but waited to have children until 29......maybe it's OK to be married earlier, but wait a bit to have children!

April said...

great great post. I am slowly learning all of these.
I did get married at 24 but very very luckily I ended up lucking out. I was wreckless and young and somehow got paired with someone who is everything I need and more, I learn that more every day. It's pretty odd that I didn't follow the guildlines but lucked out.
I love the traveling alone one. So very true.

Looking forward to more.
Another one that I reacently had to grasp...do NOT worry about things you cannot change. This one has helped me tons as of late.

April said...

just as swet southern prep said...would a 14y/o girl really LISTEN? Doubtful. It sure would be nice though.

LPC said...

Very good advice indeed.

The Mrs. said...

I am loving this idea!!! Thank you for your kind words. Prayers are working! xo

the Preppy Princess said...

Wow - these are just outstanding Miss Princess, I spent a good bit of time reading all of these. You are amazing.

Big smiles at you,
tp