Thursday, May 20, 2010

Advice for my 14 year old self - Part 2

This is part 3 of a series reflecting on my life 25 years ago - please read this post and then this post to start from the beginning.

Thank you for all of the wonderful comments on the first part of this list! 

I stand by my 'wait til 30' suggestion - please remember, this is advice to a 14 year old.  I realise lots of people get married young and have wonderful relationships but most *I* have known often tell me they regret that they did not travel, have more fun, date more, do more, be more before getting married.  This is why I would tell a 14 year old girl to wait until she is 30 to even think about it.  So to add to that point...'Do everything you would be jealous of before it is too late'.

Today is the second part of my list...

16. Keep your passport up to date

17. Learn how to use a knife and fork properly – opportunities in your life might just hinge on your table manners

18. Talk to everyone, you just never know who you will meet and who they might know

19. If your way isn’t working, try another way. Don’t reject ideas even if they feel awkward

20. When deciding on a tattoo, ask yourself if this is something that might look trashy with your wedding dress

21. Don’t lose sight of what the argument is about – if you are yelling and can’t remember why, walk away

22. Put less stock in what other people think of you – no one cares or will remember you tooted in yoga class

23. Stand up straight – slouching makes you look defeated

24. When you see a mom struggling with a crying child and a cart full of groceries, offer to put the bags in her car while she tends to her child – you will be there someday and will appreciate help more than judgment

25. Take risks – as long as you don’t lose your life or a limb you will gain a lot

26. Don’t listen to people who tell you they are trying to stop you from making a mistake. Make the mistakes.

27. Write thank you notes. By hand. With a pen.

28. Master the art of mingling

29. Club soda with lime looks just like a G&T and wont cause you to make an a$$ of yourself

30. Learn how to make 5 fabulous desserts – no one will remember what you served for dinner but they will remember dessert

Have a fabulous day!


MCW said...

I have failed at #16! I need to get that done ASAP...and my mother always said "Do NOT get a tatto, I forbid it. But, if you ever do it better now show in a wedding dress!" ha

Snooty Primadona said...

The very same things I taught my own children. However, it always bears repeating.

My daughter would rather die than ever get a tattoo. She's so smart...

I'm loving this whole series!

Beth Dunn said...

Love all of this!

Kim Reese said...

Your list is dead on. I did get married before I was 30, to a man I met at 21. We have 4 beautiful children and a wonderful relationship, but I did miss out on a lot. I have NEVER traveled by myself nor tried a lot of things I always thought I would. I don't regret the decisions I made, but would give the same advice to my kids! :-) XOXO

Leslie @ A Blonde Ambition said...

Such great and TRUE advice...I love this post series. I had to forward a link to my own mom so she could read this, too : )

Sweet Southern Prep said...

Yes, I'm going to do what you said. I'm going to wait, and then print them all off. Great idea!

April said...

I love these posts. I've shared tha last two with co workers! It makes me realize how much I've learned in the past 2 years of marriage.

JulesTX said...

This is really good advice for ALL ages to keep in mind.

Lindsay said...

What a great post! Loved it, and your blog is awesome :)

Lisa said...

Great post! This is my favorite: "Put less stock in what other people think of you." No matter how old you are, this is great advice. It's very hard to truly think like that and I wish I could.

High Heeled Life said...

These are so amazing ... and some adults could also take some suggestions from these tips. Have a great night.

Anonymous said...

Great advice! I certainly could have used #29 a time or two :)

Associate Girl said...

Princess! Did you know that you have 250 followers?!

These are perfect. You should write the updated version of Life's Little Instruction Book.

Jules said...

I love all of these. Maybe I should type them all up and hand them out to teenagers...hehehe

The Mrs. said...

I am still sad and shocked by the amount of adults who don't know how to hold a knife and fork! So important!!!