Monday, March 21, 2011
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Okie ladies...I am going to blow the roof off a problem we all have and give out some relationship advice...
Men cant find anything without us getting up and pointing to it for them.
While at lunch the other day with a friend we shall call Curly, this came up and she said she gets so annoyed when her husband stands in the pantry and cant find the snack he wants. I know the feeling, listening to someone look for something that is right in front of their face is maddening! Every man does it. Curly told me she feels he is doing it on purpose to annoy her and it has caused more than a couple of arguments.
I explained to her that men see the big picture and it's not their fault. All men know is that you look great and smell good. They have no idea what colour your eyes are, what sweater you wore the first time you met or what kind of shoes you own. They just cant focus on the details and really, truly cant see the big bag of chips right in front of them in the pantry. Nor can they see their pants on the very top of the laundry pile. Forgive them, they cant help it. The Suburban Prince explains it in terms of the hunter/gatherers. Men only really see moving objects (if the chips moved he would see them) while women can see small details. Men make good hunters (by spotting and aiming at moving animals) and women make good gatherers as we can see the tiny details...the small twig that actually has a big edible root attached to it. The next time your man cant find the ice cream...try to go easy on him.
The conversation meandered, as it does when women talk and Curly told me about how her husband is so methodical and patient and while she just doesnt have the time for doing things like putting up shelves she just asks her husband to do it and he trots off to measure, level, drill, hammer and the next time she comes in the room there is a shelf up where she asked him to put it.
I stopped her and said...
'Do you hear yourself?'
She had no idea what I meant. I laughed and pointed out that she just has to look helpless and her husband will, without complaint, grumbling or giving her a hard time, take the shelf and put it up properly for her but yet she wont get up and point out the chips for him when he is incapable of finding them.
Curly: $hit. I never thought about it that way.
Have a fabulous day!