Tuesday, March 30, 2010

What do you do when.....(A little guessing game!)

Someone doesn't say Thank You?

I recently gave two people gifts. 

One is a 15 year old boy who was going to visit his aunt all alone on the train.  I was with his mom for lunch and on the way back to her office I picked up a few treats for him to have on the journey.  His mom gave them to him with a note from me to have a wonderful trip.

The second is a 35 year old woman who has a son the same age as the Little Prince.  It was this little boy's birthday recently.  After telling me my brother-from-another-mother who was visiting the same weekend was not welcome at the party (they have met him many times at our home AND we have accomodated them when they have had weekend guests at the same time we were having parties) I decided to drop the little boy's birthday present off at her office.  The secretary took it and told me she would put it with the mail so she would get it for sure.  It is a tiny office so there is no way it 'got lost' or any other silly thing.  I dropped the present off more than 2 weeks ago.

Guess which one has not said thank you or even acknowledged the gift?

Guess which one will not be getting another gift from me?

***I am not even expecting a hand written note in this case...a facebook message or email would be enough***

C'mon everyone!  Take a guess at who the offender is!


Have a fabulous day!

21 comments:

suburban prep said...

There have been numerous thank you I have not received.
I was brought up to write off a thank you almost the same day I received a gift but many people were not.
I keep the fact that I either received or did not receive a thank you when it comes time round to perhaps get a gift off to the person again.
I will ask also about a month after sent if someone had received the item if writing a thank you might be a hardship.

a. said...

I've always written thank you notes. I remember my grandmother giving my personalized stationery at a very young age! And if someone doesn't thank me either by phone, e-mail or snail mail that's it for me. It's just so rude.

mFw said...

I was taught to write thank you notes. My moms niece is away at college and my mom always mails her check to her at school and the only way my mom knows if she received it is by her bank statement saying it was cashed. It drives my mom crazy. It is so simple to write a note, I don't know why more people can't do it.

Have a great Tuesday!

hostess of the humble bungalow said...

I have had this happen too and it perplexes me...it takes but a few minutes and it means so much. A phone call or a note is much more appropriate than an email...
This is when sometimes we just have to turn and walk away....
or if you are not afraid of a possible confrontation...phone her up and say BTW did you get that present I left at the office, the secretary assured me she would send it asap!

Suzy said...

I have just gotten to the point that I give gifts to those I choose to give them to...I don't expect anything, but am always glad to receive a thank you gift. I went to a WEDDING of a co-worker, and gave a very generous monetary gift in July. School began in September (so she was off for two months) and all we heard about at lunch was about how they were buying "real furniture" with their wedding cash gifts. Geezy peezy, at least send the thank you notes before you tell everyone how you are spending it! WHEN did the note arrive? Try February. 7 months later! Someone said she believed the rule "You have up to one year." I think that rule was written when men were at war! haha Oh well...

I left you an award on my blog last night - please go and pick it up!!!
Hope you like it!
Suzy

Beth Dunn said...

People can really loose their manners! Unbelievable. xoxo
SC

Kim Reese said...

It's amazing how manners mean nothing anymore! I truly believe etiquette classes should be mandatory in grade school, as so many parents can't seem to be bothered teaching them to their children or are ill equipped to do so. After myself or my children receive a gift, we automatically sit down and write a quick note, we may also use email for those who are tech savvy.

I just don't understand why something that is so easy and so appreciated isn't more commonplace anymore...

jilly said...

Poor manners, and it starts with the parents! I suggest giving thank you notes as the gift next time explaining that you thought it would be a nice gift thinking that they may not have any since you have never received one from them. . . I am kidding of course, but it is just so rude. I still send my own parents thank you notes, even if they just have us over for a nice dinner. A little appreciation goes a long way!

Ms. Bake-it said...

I too was raised to send thank you notes upon receipt of a gift. Even now my mother will say to me, “Did you send a thank you card?” Yes, mother… I just went through this with my dil. She was not raised that way and I had to make sure she sent out thank you notes to the people from whom she received baby shower gifts. She just did not get it. She is a doll and I love her dearly but I was shocked (appalled) at her comment about how annoying and time consuming it was that she had to write and send cards and that the people should just know they [gifts] were appreciated. After I picked my jaw up off the floor, I reminded her she received some amazing gifts and the people took time out of their busy schedule to select, buy and wrap those gifts and that they deserved a kind thank you in return. She got it then.

Monkey Mae said...

I am still so behind on thank you notes from Monkey Mae's birth. It haunts me, but we will plow through them. :-) I agree a lack of thank you is classless and offensive.

pink green & southern said...

Classless!

Miss Janice said...

I totally understand when someone doesn't know which fork to use, or how to introduce someone in the correct way...but forgetting to acknowledge an act of kindness puts a person into "Miss Janice's Etiquette Hall of Shame," and will get them "Five Tarnished Spoons!" It's just tackey!!!

OceanDreams said...

Sometimes people haven't said thank you to me either and it is frustrating. Oh well, at least you are a kind person and your generosity is is noticed by us! :)

Princess Freckles said...

I'm guessing its not the 15 year old boy?

Jo said...

Basic manners are no longer being taught. I was brought up to give a verbal thank you followed by a hand written note of thanks.

Jo
Believe it or not, we actually live on a hill!

bevy said...

Guessing the mother didn't respond...

Many years ago, our Rector's daughter got married and they invited most everyone from the church. Can you believe that not one person received a thank-you note for any wedding present? Can you imagine the talk after church every Sunday?

Semi-Slacker Mom said...

My cousin married a girl that NEVER acknowledges gifts. Wedding, babies, house-warming, nothing. Seriously. And he was raised better than that.

Patty said...

That's so sad to hear that, I always make sure my kids write thank you notes!

Sophia Mnemosyne said...

there is no excuse for her (i'm guessing it was the mother)bad manners. She should be more appreciative of your friendship and kindness. I love sending cards to friends, just for no reason but to say hello and let them know I'm thinking of them. I know not everybody is a card person - and don't expect cards in return, but a simple acknowledgement that it made their day is nice ... it only takes 230 seconds to make a phone call.

Sophia Mnemosyne said...

opps ... should say 30 seconds - not 230 seconds

Associate Girl said...

Oh goodness, my son wrote his thank yous for his birthday weeks ago, but it's me that hasn't tracked down all the addresses to post them! Thanks for inspiring me to put this at the top of the to-do list!