Sunday, November 15, 2009

A Quick Grammar Lesson - I and Me

I keep seeing this same grammatical error and I can no longer resist the urge to point it out and help everyone fix it!

I know when we were children we were always taught (and corrected) to say 'So&so and I' whenever speaking about ourselves along with someone else.

Unfortunately, it seems very few of us were taught when 'So&so and I' is actually incorrect.

I am here to help! Here we go!



Lets pretend this is a picture of me with Charlie Brown. The correct way to label it is 'Charlie Brown and me' simply because if Charlie wasn't in the picture it would be a picture of 'Me'. Labeling your pictures 'Hubby and I' is wrong - you wouldn't say it is a picture of 'I' would you? When you add another person you don't need to change what you call yourself.

This also applies when you are simply speaking about yourself and another person, there is no need to change 'me' to 'I' when you are saying something like how someone bought both of you a gift. The correct way to say it is, 'My mother bought a blender for hubby and me', not 'My mother bought a blender for hubby and I'. If your hubby wasn't a part of the equation you would say 'My mother bought a blender for me' and not change it to 'I'.

The simple rule is to say 'me' if you would when you are alone as well as when you are with someone else.

Reference 1

Reference 2

Reference 3

I hope this helps!


Have a fabulous day!

29 comments:

Scottish Twins said...

Thanks for this lesson.

I'm guilty of using the two words incorrectly. :(

knitwit said...

Another general rule of thumb is that "I" usually comes early in the sentence and "me" is usually at the end. Usually! Now you've inspired me to post my own grammar lesson on my personal pet peeve grammar mistake!!

Lindsay said...

Ohmygoodness. I am so happy you posted this!!!! It drives me insaaaane when people say 'blah & I' when they shouldn't!!!!!

Just Add Walter said...

Me (I mean I) am sorry for using it incorrectly... hehe :) I am so bad at this though... :( thanks for the lesson!

Dawn said...

GUILTY!

Henley on the Horn said...

Good lesson!! I sort of twinge when I see grammatical mistakes. As soon as I cringe, then I am one the one making the mistake! :)

Sandy aka Doris the Great said...

OMG! I can't believe there's someone else out there who's just as anal as I am about grammar! I'm always correcting people -- sometimes in person but mostly behind their backs and in my head. The one that really gets me is today's incorrect overuse of the word "myself". Please do a post on that one!!

Oh Princess! We must be grammatical twins!

Leah said...

Hahahaha! Guilty as charged... I usually say "here is me" when I should be saying "here am I". Sometimes, I just want to sound cute but I know it's so grammatically wrong.

Lipstick said...

great post! my high school teacher was so strict on this!

Pink Martini said...

I miss my mother correcting my grammar and today in my post I was going back and forth not knowing what was really correct in one instance. After about a half hour I changed it but I am still not certain. Could it be my potential error was the catalyst for your post? Oh gosh, that would be so embarrassing! Hey, if I ever do create the grammar infraction please feel free to email me. It will make us both feel better. :)

Torie Jayne said...

Great post! Guilty too! Have a sweet day!

Suburban Princess said...

Sanday - I will do that! Next week maybe :O)

Pink Martini - I will for sure! And no it wasn't your post - it was about 400 others tho!

Henley - I sometimes second guess myself to the point I make a mistake lol - sometimes we need fresh eyes to see the errors!

The Glamorous Housewife said...

Now that I have read this post I will no longer have an excuse for my poor grammar. Now if I could only fix my spelling.....

Thanks doll,
The Glamorous Housewife

Monkey Mae said...

Love it! Now could you please get people to use "gone" and "went" correctly?

Brown Eyed Belle said...

I am 100% guilty of using these words incorrectly. Shame on me! Thank you for this lesson, it is so helpful! Now if I can just get in the habit of using them correctly! Have a fabulous day, lady! xoxo

Confessions of a Mother, Lawyer & Crazy Woman said...

110% guilty of these things ... I'll come back for some reference points!

Toi said...

This is a huge pet peeve of mine. Glad I'm not alone!

Red Lipstick Style said...

i'm so guilty of using the wrong 'I', I just think it sounds better, I know, I know! ;-) great reminder to all of us!

Gwen said...

That drives me crazy too!!! The other thing that makes me bonkers is when people don't use the correct form of they're, there & their. UGH!!! It's 5th grade grammar class people!! LOL!! XOXO

Kristin said...

Most fabulous PSA!

The Blonde Duck said...

Queen Bitty is amused.

Nezzy said...

Thanks for the grammar lesson but here in the Ozarks we speak another language and elementary school grammar goes flyin' out the window. Ya see what I mean? Heeeheeehee!

Have a beautifully blessed day!!!

Headbands and Hand Bags said...

I know that I am guilty of many grammatical errors!

Suburban Princess said...

Nezzy - you can use all the folksy words you want but simple sentence structure should never be thrown out the window.

Mama M. said...

Great post!! If I'm ever in doubt, I always do just what you said, take out all but the me or I and see what it should be!! Oh, by the way...stopping by to say thanks for stopping by!! And, you're totally right...men do love us in "manly" ways, huh?!!
Oh, grammar question? When you are talking about something that is co-owned (and don't want to say "our")...is it "my and so&so's", "so&so and my" "mine and so&so's"...it trips me up everytime!!!

Suburban Princess said...

Mama M...

Always put yourself last - so 'so&so and my....' and remember in a compound possessive situation you do not ''s' the first person's name.

HTH!

The Preppy Princess said...

This is so sad, I am probably going to copy & paste this, I can never (never-ever) remember the proper grammar on this! Thank you!
tp

Maureen said...

Thank.you. It makes me crazy too! Just usually not worth wasting your breath to correct. The other one is the incorrect use of "myself". Drives.me.crazy.

HeidiG said...

In Clinton Kelly's book that came out this summer (How to Be Freakin' Fabulous), there was a whole section on grammar. Loved it!!

And thanks for posting...such a huge pet peeve!!